Thursday, September 15, 2011

WHAT SHOULD I DO?!





        This is the question that I am asking myself as I look at this beautiful notebook that my twin sister Janine recieved from her Australian pen-pal Carolyn some years ago.  It was safely packed away to be used just at the right time.


         About 1 year after her death I came across it as I went through some of our things. Again I have seen it as I approach the 3rd anniversary of her death next month.  I am contemplating some choices - inspirational quotations, Bible verses, special memories of the things she said etc. It is not a big notebook but I want it to be a special book. The cover has on two of our favourite things  - birds and flowers.


         If you came across this notebook left behind by a departed loved one, what would you do with it?! 

65 comments:

Stephanie of Gumdrop Pass said...

I think that your ideas are beautiful ones. Inspirational quotes/bible verses and other things your find beautiful/worthwhile would be a lovely tribute to your sister as well as something wonderful for yourself. :)

Sunray Gardens said...

I would use it for notes of the things you two loved together to be left to your kids someday. For instance if you loved the same flowers, books, etc. Maybe include photos of those things.
Cher Sunray Gardens

Marina said...

I would put inside everything that reminds me of happy times.. And then whenever I am sad I would look in it..

Wendy said...

I think I would want to fill it with memories of special times that I shared with them.Keep us posted and let us know what you decide.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Wendy,
Thank you very much for your response. A great idea.
Judy

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hello Marina,
Thanks for sharing what you would do. I really appreciate it.
Judy

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Sunray Gardens,
Thanks for your response. Janine did not have any children and I also do not have any but there are other loved ones I could probably pass it on to some day. Take care.
Judy

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Stephanie,
It did cross my mind that maybe I could have various sections where I cover the ideas that I have been thinking about. Many thanks for your response.
Judy

Frugal in WV said...

I like the ideas that have been left by other posters. Something that has to do with memories of your sister or inspirational quotes/bible versus. The journal is beautiful, love the birds!

Working Mommy said...

You should use it to commemorate her life. Write about your favorite memories and paste pictures in it - use it as a scrap book of everything her!

wm

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thank you very much Working Mommy. I appreciate your comments. Take care.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Frugal in WV,
Thanks for your comments. I really appreciate the suggestions I have been receiving.
Judy

Michelle said...

Write notes to her in heaven.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Michelle,
You have come up with a wonderful idea! Thank you so much.
Judy.

Annie said...

The book is lovely. I like the idea of putting in beautiful words of comfort like Bible verses, quotes by your sister, song lyrics. Make the book a place you go for inspiration and comfort.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Annie,
You could not have said it better! I want it to be a place where I find inspiration and comfort. Thank you so much.
Judy

Kelly L said...

Hi - Hopping by from Friday's hop - I'm your newest stalker -would love a follow back!
Love to you
Kelly
I've Become My Mother

Sheri said...

It is beautiful! I know you said it is not a big notebook and all the ideas mentioned are great ones. I would write to her so to speak. Memories, clippings of things she loved, of you two together. All happy thoughts and a place you can go and be with her on those days you really miss her, as I know you do. I think she will be honored no matter what you do. Hugs!

Maria said...

Judy, it is so sweet you have so many ways to cherish your sister's memories. I think your ideas are beautiful. Quotes that remind you of your sister, bible verses, even pictures, if possible to add that go along with quotes. Using it as a journal. I love all your ideas.
Hope you're doing well!
Thoughts and prayers xoxo
Maria

Camilleta said...

Maybe whenever you thought of a memory of her, you could write it down. And put in the Bible verses and quotes that remind you of her too?

What is the url of your button? Then I will tell you the exact code you should use to put it on your sidebar. =)

May said...

Treasure it and fill it up with treasured memories. I'm sure she will be so happy where ever she is. Happy weekend.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thanks May! A happy weekend to you also!

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thanks a lot for your comments Camilleta! I will get the button details and inform you. Have a wonderful weekend.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thanks for your kind comments Maria! I appreciate them so much. A good weekend to you.
Judy

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hello Sheri,
You have summed up so well what I need this book for. Thanks so much and have a great weekend.
Judy

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thanks for becoming a new Follower Kelly L. I will definitely head over to your Blog and become a Follower also. Have a good weekend.

Xmas Dolly said...

I think whatever your sister was doing with it you should go on with the same! She probably would've wanted you too. I bet you'll even feel closer to her if that's possible because I know she's already in your heart. Hugs my new friend. I'd follow you, but I cannot find where. May you find peace within your heart & your sister's smile of love in the mirror. Have a wonderful weekend.

Terri said...

I would use it for the memories of all the special times spent with that person. I know it would help me feel better writing down all those special times shared.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thanks Terri, It is really important that it helps to lift my spirit. Special memories would do that. Have a great weekend.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thank you very much Xmas Dolly! You have brightened my day by visiting my Blog and sharing your comments. You can join my Blog by Google Friend Connect at the top section of my right sidebar where you see my Followers. Take care and have a wonderful weekend.

Irene said...

I thought for a while before making this comment--Bible verses would be a great idea! And perhaps write the stories (like the events that transpired during the day, etc) that you would like to tell your sister, just like a journal, only it is addressed to her. :-)

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hello Irene,
I really appreciate your suggestions. Thank you so much and have a good weekend.
Judy

Nekky said...

I would write all the funny things she said, so that whenever I opened the book, instead of grieving, some of her funny and witty statements would make me smile. It would be a book that I can always go to when I'm depressed and will find something that will put smiles on my face.
Just make your decision Judy, you are very brave.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hello there Nekky,
Thank you so much for your comments. You certainly know what I am hoping to do with this book. I want when I open it to feel so much better and not sad. Take care and have a wonderful weekend.
Judy

Katherines Corner said...

I think I'd fill it with favorite memories, although I'd probably through in a few bible verses and inspirational quotes too. A page for each sweet memory that pops into your head, starting from as far back as you can remember until her passing. Hugs xo

Genejosh said...

I'm also with inspirational quotes/bible verses ...every time you open this notebook it will inspire you and remind you of inspiring moments with your twin:)

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Genejosh,
Thanks for your comments.Inspirational quotes and Bible verses will definitely be included. My faith has helped me so much. God Bless.
Judy

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Katherine,
I have been thinking a lot about this throughout this afternoon and I really appreciate your comments. Thank you very much. Hugs to you and have a wonderful weekend.
Judy

Lili said...

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Jamie @ Day and Age Design said...

Thank you so much for stopping by and commenting on the Japanese wall hanging. I am so touched by your blog and am very sorry for your loss.

I agree with others have said, and would write notes to my loved one every day, documenting my growth and the special moments in life that remind me of him/her.

Jamie
day-and-age-design.com

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thank you so much Jamie! I appreciate you comments. Have a wonderful weekend.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Lili,
Thanks for becoming a Follower and have a good weekend.
Judy

Mama said...

New follower from the hop! Looking forward to reading more of your blog! :-)
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Jansen Family said...

What a treasure! I all your ideas and would have a really hard time choosing...maybe you could do all of them in a scrap-book style?

Carla

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Carla,
Thanks for your comments. You have suggested a great idea. Take care and have a good weekend.
Judy

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Mama,
Thanks for becoming a Follower of my Blog. I will be hopping over to your Blog. Take care and have a wonderful weekend.
Judy

coronaryrn said...

Alot of good suggestions here...I think I would make it into some kind of memorial diary...enter something weekly or monthly as to something you saw that reminded you of her...a special moment you had shared in the past during that month...pressing flowers she and you loved between the pages would also be an idea I might try..Please link up to my Wacky Weekend Blog Hop! http://www.pargasjunkyard.wordpress.com

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thank you very much for your great suggestion coronaryn! I will definitely check the Wacky Weekend Blog Hop. Take care.
Judy

LisaWeidknecht said...

Happy to follow you! Love your ideas for the notebook.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thank you Lisa! Enjoy your weekend!

faye said...

keep it!
i absolutely agree with sunray gardens.

btw, thnks for dropping by!
about your question: the difference between blogroll and the blogs you see when you open their profile, is that blogroll can be found in your page while the blogs you followed cannot be seen. Those are the blogs you see when you open the profile of the blogger. you do not have a blogroll. you do follow many blogs. i see it when i open your profile. the blogs listed there are the blogs you followed. following a blog does not mean that the owner of that blog also follows u. you follow a blog because u like his blog and be updated his posts.
blogroll is a list of blogs which you have links exchange with. u can install it on your page. add gadget then select blog list or blogroll.
try it. open your dashboard, click design, add a gadget, select basics, then click blog list and save.
add my blog and will check it later if you did it. and will add yours. good luck!

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Faye,
Thanks for your comments and also for answering the question I asked on your Blog. I hope I get it right! Take care and have a great weekend.
Judy

faye said...

judy, just follow this simple instructions, you can make it.
http://www.blogginghobby.net/2010/07/how-to-make-blog-badge.html

spanish4kiddos said...

I can't imagine how sad is to loose a loved one especially someone so close to you. I'm sure she would've loved to see you write wonderful quotes or Bible verses in her memory.
Wishing you the best,
Barbara
Español para Niños (Spanish for Kids)

Erin said...

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Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Barbara,
Thank you very much and have a good weekend.
Judy

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thank you very much for the information Faye! I will have a go at it.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hello there Erin! I am so happy! This news that I have won the earrings has brightened my weekend so much. I will send you my address! Thank you so much for this opportunity! My first win! Wow!

faye said...

hi! you did it! you already have a blogroll.
i have just added this blog to my 3 blogs. here are the URL of the two blogs:
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thnks and have a nice day!

faye said...

if you have a problem in making your badge just let me know, maybe i can help you.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Hi Faye,
Thanks I will let you know as soon as I try. My internet service has been acting up and I am also getting a message that I have insecure content on my Blog. I have never seen this before. Can you tell me how to correct this? Thanks in advance.
Judy

Jess said...

What a beautiful journal. All of your ideas are wonderful and I'm sure your heart will lead you to the right choice.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thanks a lot Jess! Have a good weekend!

The Belly Dancer said...

The birds are beautiful, aren't they Judy?
I would fill it up with our memories together, or fill it up with some of the things she liked the most, like poetry or include some of her favorite songs and pictures or drawings of things she liked like birds.

Judy Haughton-James said...

Thank you very much for your wonderful suggestions The Belly Dancer. I certainly appreciate them. The birds are really beautiful. Take care.

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