WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE FLOWER?

By Judy Haughton-James


          I  love nature and show me flowers and I am in awe. I have seen some of the most beautiful flowers from around the world via pictures, postcards, Blogs, television, magazines, you name it.


          However there is always that favourite flower. Janine and I just loved roses. We have had pink, white and red roses in our garden over the years. I know that there are roses in other colours and I have seen beautiful yellow ones in other gardens.


         The summer heat is on over here on my tropical island and my roses aren't doing so well now so I welcome rain. Anyway I got some shots of this beautiful red rose in our garden.

      
         Speaking of flowers, I am getting in that mood to go and buy some packs of unusual flower seeds and plant them as soon as the weather is just right for them to thrive. Actually I am thinking of setting up a little garden in memory of my twin sister Janine. I may even put some bird figures in there. Who knows I could put it somewhere so that I could put a bird feeder high and maybe I will see a lot of birds again including our favourite bird - Jamaica's Streamer Tail Hummingbird. Of course I would have to make sure that it is protected from animals like goats, donkeys etc.


          Where foreign flowers are concerned my memory went back to some pictures and postcards that we saw of lavender flowers some time ago.  This occurred recently when I received the  Victorian  Lavender Sachet pictured below from my English pen-pal Pam.  I know that this flower has also been used for perfumes. Right now  I can actually picture those breathtaking scenes of lavender.

        Well, there is a flower for every month and we were born in November so ours is the Chrysanthemum.  Some years ago I had a lot of these flowers in our garden.  Another flower that thrives well even during summer at my home is what is called the Ginger Lily. Some of them can be seen in the pictures of the rose. Nothing daunts them and we have put several of them on Janine's grave from time to time. So, what is your favourite flower? I know there are so many to choose from.  

GET CONNECTED TUESDAY BLOG HOP!

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WOW! MY FIRST BLOG AWARD!

      Thanks a million to Itin who has a great blog titled 'MISS ACIDIC' for giving me the LIEBSTER BLOG AWARD!  You have certainly started off my week in great fashion! I am happy to have over 100 Followers of this Blog which I started in March of this year. Now the rule says that it is my turn to pass it on to some of my favourite Bloggers who have less than 200 Followers.  I have met so many wonderful Bloggers from many countries and they already have over 200 Followers! By the way, the word 'Liebster' means favourite in German!  Well, my top 3 favourites for this award are:
                                           
                                                  CHEERFULNUTS
                                                  SERIOUSNUTS
                                                  SAKURA HARUKA

Please pass it on to your favourite Bloggers who have under 200 Followers at this time and link back to the Blog who gave you this award. Cheers!

BE INSPIRED!

I am a big fan of quotations and I find many of them inspirational. They often lift my spirit when I go through low moments. Here are some of my favourites from Facebook Status Shuffle:

"The struggle to get out of the cocoon is what helps strengthen the wings of the butterfly and helps her fly above the world. Struggles strengthen us to fly."


"To get through the hardest journey we need to take only one step at at time, but we must keep on stepping."


"What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."- Thoreau


"We cannot change the cards we are dealt in life but we can change how we play the hand."


"Just remember when you need to talk to someone and it's too late to call a friend, God is always up!"

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO A WONDERFUL MOM!

By Judy Haughton-James


     September 1 is my mother's birthday and I take this opportunity to publicly wish her a VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Every birthday she would get a card specially made by my twin and me. I have kept up the tradition and for sure Janine's name is still listed with the words 'looking down from heaven' beside it.  This year I have decorated the card with things that Janine and I were big enthusiasts of - birds and flowers from around the world.

    

  Here are also some pictures of Mom over the years.                  

A VERY SPECIAL MOTHER!

By Judy Haughton-James


       As I approach my mom's birthday on September 1, I have decided to post again this special tribute with a few changes! I wrote it earlier this year for Mother's Day. I am blessed to have such a wonderful mother.


                     

PICTURES OF MOM WITH HER CHILDREN OVER THE YEARS!

BY JUDY HAUGHTON-JAMES


    From the early age of 13 years old I have only had one parent, my mother, Kathleen Naomi Haughton-James ( nee Lindo).  She became a widow on August 14, 1975, when my  father Harry collapsed and died of a heart attack while performing his duties as a Councillor in the St.Mary Parish Council on the tropical island of Jamaica.


    Since that fateful day I have been amazed at the strength that she has displayed when she encountered what I call the valleys on this journey called life. It is not that she did not display sadness for the loss of her husband when she was only 47 years old but managed to have the strength in holding it together and taking care of her family. It was a strength noticed not only by her family. I can never forget the words that someone said to her shortly after my father's death - "Mrs. James, there are so many beautiful things about you, but probably the most beautiful of them all, is your ability to take knocks."


     The person who said this died some years ago, but little did he know that come October 16, 2008 mom would have suffered yet another blow, that of the death of her youngest child and my identical twin sister Janine.  Again she showed all the signs of loss and it was more difficult then as she was now a lady in her 80s.  However again she held it together and was a tower of strength for me. I keep saying to her "God certainly knew how important it was for you to have been around when Janine died." We have been through our trials together and her strength has helped to pilot me through my darkest hour.


     Of utmost importance is her strong Christian faith which has never faltered despite the circumstances that she has encountered. This has been such a good example for me who in turn leaned on this faith to carry me through the most challenging period of my life. I am truly blessed to have her as my mother.  Every day I give God thanks for giving me such a special mother.

READY! SET! GO!

By Judy Haughton-James

               It is a time of excitement for me as I am a big sports fan. Yippee!  The World Games are on in Daegu, South Korea! Over the years Janine and I have been big fans of these games. You would see us seated in our living-room with our eyes glued to the television taking in the events.


        As Jamaicans excelled on the track we would cheer and oh what a thrill it was when we saw the Jamaican flag held aloft by fans or making its way up a pole as our national anthem was played.  I will never forget the joy Janine shared with me a few months before her death in 2008 as she watched every moment of Jamaica's exceptional performance at the Olympics.


         We have always been big sports fans paying close attention to athletics, football, cricket,  netball etc. We watched and listened  to sports newscasts  and sports programmes so much that we knew even some of the results and names of  top personalities in games that we were not necessarily big fans of.
         
           Well, there was some disappointment today when our top athlete, Usain Bolt, was disqualified in the men's 100m race. Anyway Jamaicans had something to cheer about as another Jamaican, Yohan Blake, won the race and became the youngest world champion ever over this distance. 


        Sports certainly teaches us life lessons. It makes us realize that nothing is certain in life and  the winner is only known after the event. Anyway I hope Usain will bounce back. As one of my favourite quotations states "It is not whether you get knocked down, it is whether you get back up." - Vince Lombardi


          If there is one game that I would like to learn how to play and get some good exercise in the process, it would be lawn tennis. I tried table tennis in the past but just for a little fun. If you are a sports fan, which game is your favourite? Is there a game that you wish you played or are currently playing?  

A PICTURE SURPRISE!

By Judy Haughton-James

Judy ( left) & Janine ( right)

          
        A few days ago I got a wonderful surprise when I received this picture from my first cousin Marlene Bryant, a professional photographer who lives in Massachusetts, U.S.A. Janine and I were very family conscious and always happy to receive visits from relatives. We got a special treat when Marlene visited as she would be armed with her special cameras ready to take pictures of us and our family. I have several pictures that she took of us over the years but it was the first time that I was seeing this one. 


       Janine and I enjoyed roaming around our farm as Marlene captured pictures of us. Here we were seated beside a breadfruit tree. We loved pictures taken in the midst of nature.


         I shared this picture with my Facebook friends and it brought back quite a few memories of our high school days. For one it reminded me that many years ago we wore our watches on opposite hands. Our former schoolmate Celia who is keen commented on this ! Others remembered that Janine was always the one with the bright smile. Sophia even remembered that one of us had a scar. Oh, that was me! This was a slight scar I had after a cut above my right eye when I was very young. However it faded with time so was hardly seen by many!:) Another friend Marjorie said she could vividly picture the days when she saw us waiting for our ride home.This picture was indeed a pleasant surprise!

BLOG POST 100!

By Judy Haughton-James

JAN ( LEFT) & JUD ( RIGHT)

JUD (LEFT) & JAN ( RIGHT)
OVER THE YEARS!

        Yeah!  This is Blog Post 100 and it is just under 6 months since I started this Blog.  I  got connected to the internet shortly after my twin sister's death in 2008 and I remember my cousin Audrey in New York suggesting that I start a Blog then. I was not in the frame of mind as yet and furthermore there was still quite a bit to learn about using the internet!


          I have been a Freelance writer for many years and just about every writer's publication that I receive stresses the importance of a writer having a Blog. Well, I finally took the plunge in March of this year and decided it would be about issues that I am very passionate about - being twins, becoming twinless and the many interests that my twin and I shared.


          It has been a difficult journey but I am happy that I have not only been able to look at the sad times but the good times.  I actually started the Blog with a poem titled 'BEING TWINS' which summed up the life that my twin and I shared for almost 47 years. In these posts I have covered a wide range of subjects.


           I want to thank the many persons who have visited this Blog, those who have become Followers and those who have written comments. So far I have had visitors from 114 countries. I know many of these persons are not twins or twinless twins, yet they have shown interest in my posts. As the saying goes "Gratitude is the right attitude."  I look forward to your continued support and welcome many more Followers and comments. Until we meet again on Blog Post 101, Take care and greetings from my 'Island in the sun - Jamaica!"

WHO IS YOUR FAVOURITE AUTHOR?

By Judy Haughton-James

       
        This is a question that we often have to answer when filling out some profiles or answering questions by friends, relatives etc.  In my last post I wrote about the mystery books that my twin sister and I liked during our childhood.


          Over the years we read a wide variety of books and every now and then some friends would mention Danielle Steel as one of their favourite authors. Janine and I then decided to start reading some of her books. The titles that I can recall right now are "Kaleidoscope," "Secrets" and "Now And Forever."  We both found her to be a very good author and decided that we would definitely read more of her books.


           When Janine died there was actually one of Danielle Steel's books here waiting to be read. However it was over 1 year after her death before I managed to read it. At first I read many inspirational books, books on Twin Loss etc. Then suddenly one day while going through some things I came across the book. One word in the title struck me. Here is the title, "THE HOUSE ON HOPE STREET." I wonder how many persons can guess which word was it. If you guessed 'HOPE,' you are so right. 


           I started reading and I wondered if I made the right decision as I was scared of anything  with the slightest hint of sadness. Nevertheless I pressed on and was happy that I read it as it had a happy ending. As Danielle Steel so aptly said about this book "The House on Hope Street is about learning to live again after you think life is over.  It is about cherishing small miracles and believing in big ones.  It is above all about hope."


          These days I have been busy reading Blogs, newsletters, magazines etc. but it is about time that I also find time to read some novels again even if it takes longer than usual.  Remember I must also find time for writing!


         Well, there is yet another Danielle Steel book waiting to be read!  It came all the way from my Australian cousin Christine and what a wonderful title it has - " Safe Harbour."  Even more impressive for me are these words at the top of the book " Believe in Happy Endings."